marriage repair, my thoughts

for the Catholic church

	1. there's no point in starting unless you both have a committment to repairing the marriage.

	2. both stop having any sex with other people.

	3. don't ever go to a bar late at night, that's not compatible with family life.

	4. allow lots of short periods of time apart

	5. this process will take a long time

	6. give each other cups of tea and slices of cake and the occasional kiss

	7. if someone has already decided to walk away this won't work.

